If your partner is your best friend, then lucky you. You have found the best union between friendship and love. But a lot of people worry that their partner is not their best friend, and that the relationship is based on just an initial physical attraction and nothing else. Then when that peters out, there will be nothing left.So how do you tell whether your partner and best friend are the same person? Well, the simplest way is to think about how you have behaved with friends in the past and see whether your current partner really fits into that mold. Below are five tell-tale signs that your partner and best friend are one and the same, and that your relationship is one a firm footing of both physical attraction, and friendship.
You Bitch To Them
When you think back to your teen years and all the hours you spent on the phone with them, what were you doing? Yep, that’s right, bitching. Complaining about this and that, hither and yon. In those days it would have been your parents, teachers, and the boy in the year above that you had a crush on. Now it might be your boss, your other friends, and probably still your parents. But if you are now complaining about those things to your partner, rather than to another girl on the end of a phone, you can be pretty sure that it is them that is your new best friend.Some partners are happy about this, some not. But if you find that they are listening, trying to give you advice, and allowing you the time to vent and let off steam after a hard day at work, then they really are trying to do their best in the best friend role.
You Are Most Comfortable With Them
Comfort is a very big deal in relationships, one that is not given the attention that it deserves. If we are truly never comfortable around our partner, then it can lead to frustration and arguments. However, if you get too comfortable, then sometimes the allure and shine of a relationship can wear a bit thin, and the attraction can be lost.But if you are comfortable around your partner then it is a good sign that the two of you can adopt a friend role, as well as one of lover. The trick is to know when you need just pure comfort, and when you are in a lover’s role. A good friend knows that sometimes you need just comfort and nothing more, and sometimes you need more than that. You can tell that your partner is your best friend if they can segue between these two roles with ease.
You Are A Double Act
If you finish each other’s jokes, have inside jokes, and are generally always laughing at each other, then that is a good sign that you two are friends. A big problem with many relationships is that the couple cannot laugh together, and see everything as serious. If you find that your partner doesn’t find you funny, and that the two of you do not really have any shared experiences that you laugh at, then this might become a problem later in your relationship.
You Feel Each Other’s Pain
Bet friends feel for each other as if an invisible bond ties the two together, and a relationship should be no different. If your partner is upset then you should also be upset, this is a prerequisite for almost any workable relationship. But it is worrying the number of relationships where one, normally the man, doesn’t quite feel so much for the women. Though these relationships can survive, it should be a signal to you if your partner doesn’t quite seem to care as much as your best friend does.
Their Success Is Your Success
Conversely, best friends revel in their friends successes as well, and this is a great sign of a good relationship if your partner is also completely stoked for your success. It shows a lack of competition in the relationship, and that you view the partnership as just that, a partnership rather than two competing adults. If your partner talks about how awesome you are to his or her friends as if he had just got promoted/ran a 10K/got a new job, then you know you are best friends as well as lovers.