Getting a girlfriend back is one of the most talked about things on the Internet and everyone has their own little theories on how it is best to get your ex girlfriend back. Whilst people’s theories vary quite a lot on the smaller details, most people end up recommending the same course of action.
A lot of people are simply searching and yearning for the companionship that their ex girlfriend will have given them and they are not particularly bothered about their actual girlfriend. This can lead to strange scenarios where people end up chasing their girlfriend and dating them again, to realize that actually, they don’t like their girlfriend anymore and want to break up with them.
Getting your girlfriend back can be done in any number of ways. Most people recommend ignoring their texts and calls and making sure that you don’t communicate with them when it isn’t necessary. This allows both of you to clear your heads of any emotion clouding your logical decisions and means that when you do make a decision, it will not be based on emotional merit.
Personally, I don’t see why this is a good thing. Whilst it sort of makes sense, in an abstract way, out of sight is out of mind. Never calling your ex girlfriend and refusing her communications is a great way to make her forget about you totally and after a longer period of time, she may even delete your contact details, leading to an awkward, “Do I know you?” text when you finally decide it is time to talk to her again.
Whilst avoiding stalker territory, don’t stop communication entirely. You both cared about one another for some time and feelings do not just vanish upon a whim, even if someone cheats or does something else wrong in the relationship.
Try to make the best of what you’ve been given. To get your ex back you need to improve upon your life and try to stamp out any negative behavior that you may exhibit. Often it is hard to realize you are doing things that may sabotage a relationship, so ask your friends and family if there is something they think you could improve upon. Most people value communication, empathy, success and creativity. Improving any of these traits in your personality and accentuating what it is that makes you attractive to others is going to entice your ex back to you.
Whilst it is hard to get your groove going again after a break up, don’t waste your time moping around and playing video games. Look at the silver lining that comes in a breakup, you are now free to focus fully on your emotions and needs and have much more time available to pursue personal habits. Perhaps the reason you broke up in the first place was because you no longer had your own identity, just so and so’s boyfriend. This is a great time to go and be social, join some clubs or pick up a new skill as this shows that you are moving on with your life with or without your ex. People like to be around other people that are successful or fun and engaging and it isn’t too difficult to become any or all of these with a little effort.
Showing off your accomplishments can be seen as bragging in this day and age where modesty rules the roost, so take caution not to appear arrogant. Whilst some people see arrogance as confidence, unless you know your ex so well that you can tell how they will react to you, always take the slightly more understated route to showing what you have accomplished.
The real aim is changing yourself in to a better, more attractive and confident version of the person she was attracted to originally. If you can do this well and in a short time period, you are golden and well on your way to happiness.