Never before have people had the freedom to talk with each other as right now. Meeting and chatting to new people every day is totally possible and if you are single, it is a great way to meet new people, make new friends and maybe find yourself a promising new relationship.
Unfortunately, many people don’t understand the signs when people are flirting with them. This can end up going two ways. Either everything someone says or does towards them is seen as flirting when it isn’t… or you don’t notice people flirting with you at all, ever.
Hopefully, we’ll be able to help you out a little with this!
This one is the most important.
Holding eye contact with people is intensely important, in all facets of your life. Whoever you are talking to, you should be looking in to their eyes as you speak. It projects confidence and levelheadedness, makes you feel better and is proven to make relationships stronger. In addition, it makes people think you are telling the truth. Breaking eye contact often or avoiding eye contact makes you seem less attractive and interesting and makes it look like you have something to hide. This isn’t what you want to be projecting to the world.
A well-known trope involving eye contact is when someone is making eye contact with you across the bar. Maybe she is interested in talking to you, maybe she just happened to catch your eye. Here’s a way to test.
Unless you are doing something weird that makes you a target for people staring at you [If you are acting oddly, a stranger in a different country, juggling, etc.], people don’t tend to hold eye contact for very long, especially if they are not attracted to you. If you find that you are being looked at by a lady across the room for more than a few seconds, you should go and talk to her!
Even if it turns out she wasn’t looking at you, you can always make excuses and leave to talk to someone else. The chance of meeting someone incredible isn’t there at all if you don’t make the most of opportunities you get.
When you are talking to her, eye contact shows she is interested in the conversation, you and whatever you are doing. If she is looking at her watch, phone or anywhere apart from you, you could be making her feel awkward and should think about leaving.
They say that body language accounts for more of the communication we do in person than the actual words that we say. Whether or not that is true, there’s no question that it certainly has a large effect on how we perceive the world. You can tell if she is flirting you as she we find reasons to touch you and will direct her body to face yours whenever possible. Another classic body language tip for people dating is whether or not she is playing with her hair. This is thought to be a sign of flirting as she is actively acting nervously and things like hair twirling are seen as playful and perhaps flirty. In conjunction with eye contact and other body language, this is a pretty good sign that she may be interested in you.
One word of caution though, body language isn’t a surefire thing. Sometimes, someone might just keep great eye contact and naturally faces people, even when they are not interested in them. Bear this in mind when you try to use these kinds of things to see if they are flirting with you.
A lot of guys are completely unaware that some girls may well flirt with you for the fun of it or for a business transaction. The attractive girl at the bar probably isn’t flirting with you, just trying to get more tips. Whilst this is often the case, it may well be that she is interested in you. Don’t go making any silly decisions, weigh whether you think she might be in to you with the possibility it might just be good for business. Thinking about things like this will help you find the right girl to date and will help you embarrass yourself less often!
Flirting is an age old art and is continually evolving. In this digital age, she might even be flirting by starring all of your tweets or commenting on everything you write… Keep an eye open and think logically about whether this person might be in to you and you’ll be able to make your own decisions about how to proceed. Most of all, have fun and don’t be creepy!